When you think of fall, you’re probably thinking of the beautiful colors, cozy layers, and sipping on warm drinks. As the leaves change though, it’s an important time to change our attitude and say what’s not being said. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and we’re speaking up about the tough situation. If we stay quiet, who are we helping?
What Counts as Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence, relationship violence, dating violence—no matter what it’s called, it’s never okay. It can happen to anyone and occurs when one partner in an intimate relationship tries to control and dominate the other person. Violence is often a power play, and can manifest emotionally, psychologically, sexually, financially, or physically. Although there are over 10 million women and men who are victims of intimate partner violence each year, the signs can be difficult to recognize.
Recognizing Red Flags
The red flags aren’t always bright and bold, but the most telling sign is fear of your partner. It’s unhealthy to be constantly walking on eggshells to avoid big blow-ups with the person that you love. An abusive relationship includes a partner who’s belittling and controlling, which can cause feelings of self-loathing, helplessness, and desperation.
While trusting your feelings and your gut are more than enough to recognize the signs, certain behaviors will also reveal an abuser’s true colors. Experiencing things like wanting to move into the relationship too quickly, being excessively jealous, or not honoring boundaries are all signs of a violent relationship. As we mentioned, red flags aren’t always in your face—sometimes they’re disguised as overly affectionate or endearing actions.
Getting Out Of A Violent Relationship
Helping yourself, a loved one, or a friend get out of experiencing domestic violence isn’t easy, but it’s necessary. Deciding to leave requires protection before and after the relationship, and there are many resources to support victims. If it’s you who’s being abused, know that you’re not alone and it isn’t your fault. Domestic violence may not be a common conversation, but that doesn’t mean you won’t receive support.
If you’re helping a loved one, don’t give up. “Just leaving” is easier said than done, regardless of how obvious the violence is. The most powerful thing that you can do to help is speak with them and support them. Sit down with a friend and let them see what you’ve been seeing.
It’s essential to raise awareness about domestic violence, despite how difficult it is to talk about it. Whether you’re looking to relax and reflect, ready to move towards a brand new future, or just need some support from listening ears, City Pointe Beauty Academy is here for you. Contact us today!